Everyone around me. I don’t have any money. I am in debt. My husband is injured and depressed. My children are okay, but not ding well at their school because they aren’t doing their homework because I am not giving the tiem and space to do it, and they are all in one stupid room. One room for four kids. I want to move—to w_______, or somewhere near there: s________?

Maybe.

I want—I pray that this baby be born healthy.

Love,

FJB

I still haven’t decided to what extent I think we are involved in deciding the direction of these plans.

But I am definitely sure, that to go against the flow, causes pain to me, and also many times to those close to me.

How to feel which way the flow is going from day to day?

I think that if I or someone else tries to connect with G-d as if She can be expected to always seem the same, then we are underestimating G-d.

I don’t have an idea of how G-d is really supposed to be. If I say, “you should seem like this, or how I imagine G-d to be holy,” isn’t that missing the point?

How can I know how G-d is going to seem this time I see Her?
Do I know what my friends will be like when I go to meet them for coffee or they are picking up for carpool one morning? Do I know what clothes they are going to wear or expression they will have on their faces? Do I know their mood? Can I expect a particular tone of voice? Or am I most likely to meet a true self in my friend if I don’t expect, but just wait and see?

True confession time, right?

I am working three peoples jobs in one half-day at work, since they layed off so much of staff.

I am feeling like a bad mother because I shouted at my kids lately.

I am sad. I want somebody to tell me it’s all right.

Did you know that it’s almost impossible to think of good things after you get little sleep. I read something on it once. An article

I am not feeling talented at all. I deserve to live because I am born. I am not a bad person, but I don’t know what I am contributing in this world, other than being a mother who is not too bad most of the time, if unorganized many times; a wife who is good and faithful, but can’t get the housework done, and I still don’t understand why my husband is disapointed in me from day one; and what else am I doing? Am I polite to people on the phone? Yes, but that’s my job. WHAT AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE. Will we get out of this rat race?

Was I brought up with too expensive tastes? Yes. But I can’t even economize when I want to. I don’t spend much money, relative to my income, I do. I guess.

I hate counting pennies in the grocery store. I hate getting food coupons (They are for families with kids 3 and under, and pay for some basics like tuna fish/milk/cereal and beans). Even though we were going into debt, I stopped them. Why? Even though they saved me up to $80-100 a week. Because I had to stand in line and keep everybody in line behind me waiting. I think they make them hard for the cashier to process on purpose. Just so you won’t get them if you don’t absolutely need them. I hate telling people about my life, are my kids up to date on their vaccines. (a prerequisite for food coupons) How many hours do I work a day. How many do I plan to.

Did you know (this is horrible) a man killed his wife and 5 kids because they were in debt and they both were fired at once. It’s so horrible. I was especially attentive when I heard that they forged documents for income requirements to get govt funded childcare. I never did that, but I remember the lady helping me apply a helping me to calculate this way and that to get to the number that was definitely under the required amount. Once I was over by $100, and the childcare was gone the next day. The federal work people came in and checked during an overhaul of the budget and rechecked the documents and then said I was over. Ha! What people are driven to in their pain. God forbid, I should even think of anything like this man did, and I’m not. It made me think that I am much more prepared to face difficult circumstances after the situation I was in 4 years ago. God forbid it should happen to anyone else. I didn’t have a place to live and we had two children and me pregnant. My husband didn’t leave me behind. We worked together and got out of it. But now I feel bad. I am not doign well with the budget. Of course our federal government can’t balance a budget either. I feel like a failure. I want an “out” card. I want somebody to say, “this is your purpose in life,” or “these are the purposes you are supposed to reveal in your life–if you are not perfect this stuff counts, and this stuff doesn’t…” How do you know the difference? What in this life is absolutely worth doing?

I believe that it is worthwhile to have children. I believe it is worthwhile to get married. I believe it is worthwhile to love people. I believe that I am going to make it through this. I believe

I have talent. I am going to make it.

Are any of you having a hard time? Do you ever feel like God is nudging you to do a better job? I do. What job do you want me to do, God?

What happinesses would you like me to experience, and how would you prefer I would become the way I should be and receive all the Good you have for me???

Write twenty sentences starting with, “I believe”. It can be silly or serious. I was in a philosophical mindset when I wrote mine.

I’d love to include a link to your answer in this post.

I believe in a universe that can not be fathomed by the human mind.

I believe in that I may someday know something about God as a capital-letter entity that can be contacted by lil ol’ me.

I believe that I am infinitely connected to some energy-movement that is beyond the words we have to name all-that-is.

I believe that it is necessary to have a clear social structure.

I believe that it is useful to pass down traditions to your children.

I believe that all humans have the absolute right to be respected just for having been created.

I believe that the good and bad actions and attitudes of any person creates a rippling pool of ever-widening effect.

I believe that prayer or concentrating on specific outcomes have a direct effect on what actually happens.

I believe that we humans are all connected in our minds and emotions.

I believe that attempting to do good for others is a more effective type of action that it may seem from the first glance: it has uncalculated effects on others and ourselves.

I believe that it can be depressing to be alive, but my mind and self are a full of layers that can be inspired to create a better and better situation.

I believe that I am sad that we die.

I believe that sleep is one of the things that makes us human; it requires us to trust in life enough to temporarily give up all control; it recharges us in ways we do not comprehend, and maybe can’t.

I believe that bad things that I could imagine are not worth trying out to their deepest darkest despair because that is not trust, it is mistrust.

I believe that I am, and you are too.

I BELIEVE THAT I PROVE BELIEF WITH ACTION.

I BELIEVE THAT A BELIEF IS AT LEAST A WISH, NEXT A MODEL OF UNDERSTANDING, NEXT AN ACTION.

I BELIEVE THAT BELIEF WILL GIVE ME MORE WAYS OF DEALING WITH THE WORLD AROUND ME.

I BELIEVE THAT I CAN FIND OUT WHAT I BELIEVE WHEN MY BELIEFS ARE QUESTIONED.

WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE? WHAT ABOUT YOU?

THIS IS A MEME FOR ALL WHO READ AND WOULD LIKE TO LINK BACK, I WILL PUT THEIR LINKS IN NEXT POST.

So far

Bad for Shidduchim

has answered, at least she says she might add more. Torah and food beliefs are good…Thank you. Anyone else?

“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”

“The one who uses the loudest voice usually has the weakest argument.”

“The display of status-symbols is a result of low self-esteem. The self-confident person projects a modest image.”

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

“Only the strongest of men are gentle.”